Day 3: your parents

mom and shoti

 I think the first thing anyone could say about my parents when they first see or meet them is that they are young. My mom is 36 and my dad is 35.

When people would first see my dad or my mom they would ask me if my dad is my brother or my mom is my sister. And a few times people thought my dad and I were together! hahahahaha! One time, a friend of my mom told her that she saw my dad with another girl, turns out it was me!

my mom and i

What can I say? I love my parents. Of course we don’t get along all the time, but I think the important part is that we try to understand each other and adjust to each other’s needs.

Before, I was really upset that my dad wasn’t as sweet as other dads, and I think that really affected me growing up, but now that he is getting older, our relationship is getting better. I realized now that the reason could have been that he was still young. I mean, technically he should just be a fathering a 1-7 year old, but he already has a college student daughter. He’s sweeter now, and we get to talk more, and I’m so thankful that God answered this prayer of mine.

sam and dad

Mom and I didn’t always get along, and the worst time was when I was still in my teen rebel years. I was the typcal self-centered “the world doesn’t understand me” teen, and I always complained how much she didn’t understand me, how she was so unreasonable, and I think at the same time, my mom really didn’t fully understand the stage that I was in, and so we clashed. But now that she is more experienced being a mother, and I being more mature, our relationship has improved, and we handle each other better.

stephen and mom

I love them both so much.

I’m very very thankful for my parents. I am thankful that they decided to have me. They were only 16 and 17, what did they know about being parents, and yet the continued with the pregnancy and they took care of me with the help of my grandparents.

I’m thankful that they are so selfless and they think of our needs first before theirs; when buying clothes, or gadgets, or other things, and even the fact that they continue to work hard to pay for all our tuition fees, my tennis, my brother’s football, and other extra activities.

me, my mom carrying sam, stephen on dad's lap

I know they are trying their best, and I know they love us and want the best for us.

I was never the sweet daughter, for some reason I’m too shy or scared to be sweet, but I love them very much, and I pray for them a lot. I pray for their relationship with each other, their relationship with my brothers and me, their relationship with God, and them as my parents and as individuals.

my mom carrying stephen with our cousins and he sister in law

They don’t know it, but I cry for them sometimes, because I feel bad that that they never got to enjoy their youth. I feel bad that they had to grow up so fast. I feel bad that the reason my grandparents had to migrate to the states was to support us. I feel bad thinking that if because they had me a t such a young age, it affected their future careers.

mom and dad

Maybe if they didn’t become parents at those ages, they would’ve done better when it comes to their careers, and they would have been richer, and that’s why I am thankful for each day because I know that they chose this life. they chose to have me. They chose to give up their youth. they chose to sacrifice their future.

What I also find amazing with my parents is that they’re still together. Not a lot of young couples that become pregnant stay together, but my parents are.  And I am thankful that they found God because if they didn’t I don’t think they would still be together now.

dad and sam

I know that my parents went through so many struggles, pains, to get to their stable place now. And I love them for making that constant decision to stay together, and I love God for always guiding my parents, and keeping their relationship strong.

I love you mom and dad even if you can’t really see this post.